What Does Friendship Really Mean?
Have you ever felt abandoned by everyone? Where you feel all alone, and no one is there for you? I’ve been in that place where darkness surrounds, and everywhere I turn no one seems to be there for me.
It’s strange to me how the emptiness inside becomes a deafening silence of loneliness and the feeling of abandonment having no one to turn to, but self.
What follows is a handful of thoughts about friendship, so it’s short and sweet.
This short read is only meant to help put these kinds of experiences into perspective by demonstrating how our feels don’t always reflect reality.
Feelings are similar to looking into a curved mirror no matter what angle you look into the mirror it will never reflect correctly, and that is what our feelings do when they get the best of us.
I say that to emphasize the importance of our needing to exercise sound judgment by bringing to your remembrance the truth and facts. Truth is the anchor that keeps you from being carried away by the winds of your feelings and allows you to stand firm even though the waves of life are tossing your ship on the sea of life.
Our emotions are similar to waves and winds there highly unpredictable and sometimes take us places we never intended or wanted to be. It’s not that our feelings are bad, but that they can’t be the only thing we rely on when facing difficulties in life.
When I’m questioning things because of how I feel I often remind myself of what I know to be true, this helps me to gain control over my feelings and allows me to regain a proper perspective on life before moving forward.
There are friends, and then there are friends, there’s a difference and noticeably so. This isn’t a bad thing at all because not everyone is identically the same. There are so many variables in life that are not in anyone’s control which causes us to be at different places in life.
That’s just life!
Take for example everyone has different personalities, different experiences, different struggles, different challenges, and not everyone has the same flexibility with their time and resources.
This is what makes all friends unique and beautiful, no matter what level or place that they have in your life at any specific time they’re still your friend.
The critical thing to remember is that a friend is always there to listen, help if they can. More importantly, you know that if they can be there for you, they will if they can’t, you know that they would if they could because that is the kind of friend they are.
These are real friends because they’re loyal, faithful and always there if you need them even if from a distance all they have is to give an ear.
From the small to the great everyone is irreplaceable and that’s what makes them special and unique, that we can call them our friend.
Bradford Lee Mace