Do You Need to Pick Up The Pieces to Move On?
“I’m picking up the pieces and putting them back together differently now. Once I’m done you won’t recognize the new me. I’m taking extra care and paying extra attention to every piece so that I don’t make the same mistakes twice. Those pieces that don’t fit have to be discarded now. It hurts but what I have learned from the discarded pieces will bring great joy in my future because wisdom has taught me by them.”
When life changes we don’t need nor do we want to pick up all the pieces to move forward. Some pieces out of necessity must be left behind for us to move forward.
Dead weight holds us back and keeps us from reaching our highest potential.
Think of it this way if we were to embark on a long distance hike we would be very careful as to what we put in our backpacks to ensure our survival as well as our ability to reach our goal of making it to the end. By way of application, those necessary things are what we have learned from our past experiences anything more would be to great a burden causing us to grow tired and faint to the point of collapse.
There is a reason why we are to forget and put behind us some things from our past. This is why we call it the past and often refer to it as history and not the present or the future. History is meant for us to reflect back on only to learn from it. We were never meant to carry our past with us and we were never meant too live in it nor relive it.
This I know to be true, nothing shall fall by the wayside, everything discarded will be put carefully on the shelves of history.
Life is to short to waste it on the emptiness of nothingness. Therefore I’ve taken the time to learn from everything I’ve had to discard so that I take away something as I finally leave them on the shelf to collect dust.
There are things that truly matter in life and then there are things that have no matter.
No one said life would be easy after all we did come into this world kicking and screaming. The “BUT” is we don’t have to go through life kicking and screaming.
It all comes down to choice, perspective and a willingness to learn from our life experiences so that nothing is left to waste.
You see perspective is critical in life and it makes all the difference in the world. Perspective is the ability to see what is not yet seen. It’s the ability to see everything as a learning experience by which we are able to grow from.
The following are practical examples of what it means and looks like when we have the right perspective toward life.
True happiness is a state of mind, its a perspective one chooses to have. This isn’t to say there will be no pain or suffering along the way after all a diamond is only produced under the most extreme pressures and heat.
Consider the following;
The sun always shines behind the storm clouds and patiently waits to be revealed in its due time. Interestingly it’s only after the rain that we see the rainbow. The cause of the rainbow is the sun reflecting off the remnants of the storm but not everyone sees it because not everyone looks for it. The sun represents our learning and the remnants of water left in the air after the storm represent the good we were able to pull out of it.
When both collide they give birth to a rainbow.
All of this is to say life is about choice and it’s about choosing to learn or not to learn from one’s own experiences.
If we truly take the time to observe our surroundings either nature or people it doesn’t take one long to see the connection we have and that even in nature itself we can learn some incredible life lessons that are practical for helping us learn about ourselves and others as the previous example demonstrates.
A person who has trained themselves to learn from life’s experiences can only grow stronger. They are like a tree planted by a river, the drought comes but the tree is unshaken, the sun beats down relentlessly causing other plants to die off but the tree remains immovable and unchanging in its purpose and continues to grow. The tree is you and me, the river is our continuous learning from life and the elements that change around us are our experiences both bad and good.
The one thing in life that we know will never change is “change” itself. At life’s core are change and adaptation. The only variable that can make us strong and wise is our choice to learn from our experiences.
You see there is a purpose in everything if we just take the time to observe and learn. Our education doesn’t and shouldn’t stop at school. Life is the greatest school we will ever attend and trials, difficulty, hardship, and suffering are its greatest teachers if we will just choose to take the time to learn from them.
The choice is yours alone to make if you want to become a better you.