Or do they just like the bad guys?
Maybe secretly? 😲
All kidding aside.
Unfortunately, a lot of nice guys believe this to be true.
But I don’t!
Personally, I believe the core problem is a lack of communication.
More specifically, communication that seeks to understand what each woman actually needs, wants and desires.
Because not all woman are the same.
In my experience, most nice guys don’t know how to listen and as a result don’t ask the right questions from the woman they desire to be in a relationship with.
At the core of good communication is our seeking to have a better understanding of who we’re talking with so we’re able to act accordingly or appropriately.
Now based on our new understanding of them (because we’ve actually listened and asked the right questions), we now understand specifically what their needs, wants and desirs are.
And now we’re able to make the necessary changes to put into action what is needed to make the relationship work.
Otherwise the opposite is true and there remains a chasm or void that’s left unfulfilled and empty.
And someone some day might come along to fill that void or she’ll go searching elsewhere to have it filled.
These are fundamental facts of life and relationships.
If you stop feeding the fire with wood it’s eventually going to burn out.
So FEED THE FIRE, lest the flame goes out and the amber of her soul float’s away into the night for someone else to catch and make a fire with her.
The other issue is that NICE GUYS are too nice or in my opinion to afraid.
Meaning that some men are too nice and to afraid to ask the right questions because they think it might be inappropriate,
Or worse, they feel like they’re not going to be able to live up to the woman’s expectations, which is a basically fear.
It’s a fact that some men are just not cut out for the bedroom because they’re Plain Jane or too Vanilla.
Which is to say nice guys are often looked at as being boring because they lack spice and spontaneity!
The truth is some women like to have sex outdoors on occasion,
Some women like to be taken in the kitchen on occasion.
Some like it rough, some like it gentle, while others like it all.
Is it wrong? NO, it’s called adventure!
Would life be the same if there was no thrill to living? I don’t think so.
My point is,
Not all woman are the same and it’s a mistake for us men to make assumptions about them, especially when it comes to sex.
Sex isn’t restricted to our bedrooms either and it surely isn’t limited to the missionary position.
Herein lies the Crux of the problem,
Men fail to communicate and actively listen to what a woman actually needs and wants because said man operates on ignorant prideful assumptions.
Or maybe it’s arrogance for some men.
Or just willful ignorance.
What ever the reason the fact is,
Assumptions kill relationships!
With that said,
This isn’t a complicated answer and surely not an exhausted one by any means, but a brief summary of how I see it from my experience.
And forgive me if this comes off strong, but it’s the truth.
Maybe not in an absolute sense for all, but the truth for many.
Women love good (nice) guys, who are MEN!
A man is someone who’s a leader and knows how to take a woman’s hand.
A good man knows how to please her by reading the language she speaks (mind, body, soul and spirit).
He knows when she wants it rough and spontaneous, but also knows and understands how to make love to her, when she needs it.
A good man understands that making love to her begins and ends with the little details of her day, while never forgetting it’s the little things that matter most in her life.
A good man knows that foreplay is the road to a woman’s soul and it’s not just her body that needs to be touched, but her mind and her heart also.
A good man knows when to talk or to just be silent and listen, as she undresses her soul for him to see, while knowing that she’s doing this in hope that he would do the same.
A good man knows how to slap her ass just right to keep her wanting more and isn’t afraid of going down on her and just calling it a night.
A bad man is just full of shit, never getting a word I just said, because he’s too prideful to learn how to capture and keep a woman’s heart.
And this is why women and men don’t always get along because one wants to talk while the other doesn’t learn how to listen.
Bradford Lee Mace