Life Philosophy Relationships

Do you see your life more as an adventure or a chore?

Life isn’t always predictable, as we might like it to be, but isn’t that what makes life more like an adventure? I would like to think so.

If everything was predictable, don’t you think life would become rather boring?I think so.

And most would agree that variety, diversity, spontaneity and being surprised from time to time are all good things.

At least in relationships it sure keeps things fun and exciting!

Sadly, when things like variety and spontaneity are no longer found present in a relationship, that’s when things begin to become boring and uneventful or adventure-less.

When I think about it,

Cheating in a relationship often shares those same elements (variety, spontaneity) and that’s what gives people the rush of excitement and a sense of adventure.

I’m not saying cheating is good, I’m just pointing out how no one really likes when a relationship becomes boring and predictable.

Going through the motions is like waiting hours before getting on a rollercoaster that you’ve been waiting to ride all year. It’s no fun just standing there doing nothing, but waiting. Let’s get on the damn ride and have some fun already! Oh wait, the rollercoaster stopped working, all that waiting was for nothing and now you’re shit out of luck. Sucks right?

Think about it, isn’t that what makes presents so fun and exciting to open, the element of surprise?

Sure it is!

That’s what makes rollercoasters so much fun to ride!

Of course there are those who don’t like surprises or at least that’s what they want us to believe. (wink, wink)

Here are the facts and BTW, I’m an optimist by nature, but I’m all about keeping it real because life’s unedited and never candy coated.

Let’s be real with one another, if something sucks it SUCKS and thats not being negative, it’s just stating a fact.

I don’t care for people that try and candy coat bullshit because shit is shit and all shit stinks like shit even after you’ve sprayed it with Fabreze. Who are they fooling, it smells funky!

Sorry, I got side tracked, oh yes, the facts.

  • Life will have ups and downs
  • Life will play with your emotions
  • Your feelings will get hurt
  • Life won’t always be fair
  • And you won’t always understand what it is you’re going through or even struggling with.

That’s okay because every experience is an opportunity for us to learn and grow, and we don’t always need to have all the answers to move forward.

Although, I would argue we do need to know and understand some of the principles that make life life.

Just as there are seasons in nature there are also seasons in our lives.

For example, life has seasons of,

  • Ups and downs
  • Times of joy
  • Times of sorrow
  • Times of drought
  • Life and death
  • And the list goes on

The truth is we can’t avoid these things from happening to us however, we can lesson some of the impact they have on our lives.

But only when we accept their reality by embracing the fact that it’s okay for life to be this way because this is what it means to live, this is life.

We where born to embrace life as an adventure, NOT A CHORE. We weren’t meant to just exist, where’s the fun and adventure in that, there isn’t any.

I hope you’re beginning to see the principal I’m unfolding for you, if you’re unsure I’ll tell you now, it’s perspective.

Perspective is the most important element of living an abundant life, but not just any perspective because having the wrong one will suck the life right out of you.

For example;

Someone who’s trained themselves to only see problems in everything, is hardly a good perspective to have, but someone who sees a problem as an opportunity to find a solution, like finding the missing pieces to a puzzle, is by far the happier of the two perspectives.

I look at it like this; Having the right perspective is the difference between living or just living to die.

Storms in life will come, but remember this to shall pass and once the storms pass the clouds give way to the sun and on a rare occasion a rainbow to boot.

In other words, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel, but if you’re finding it hard to see than light that bitch yourself because no one’s going to light it for you, but you.

I don’t care if I sound corny, because it’s the truth!

Although life can be dark and painful at times, if we hold on and persevere, a new day will dawn and the sun will rise again because that’s how life is.

Personally, I think it’s f_____g incredible. (Fricking, incase you where wondering)

And more often than not, the joy that follows will overshadow the pain we had to endure and before you know it your seemingly negative experience becomes a distant memory lost in the pages of history. And you don’t need to go back to relive it either!

Consider the example of a woman giving birth;

She endures (not without reason) incredible pain while giving birth, but once her child is born, she immediately forgets the pain she had just endured.


Because she’s now overwhelmed with the joy of having just given birth to her newborn baby.

She endured because of the hope of what was to come OUT of her suffering. Not to mention that it was also the hope of what was to come after her suffering also.

Notice that OUT makes a big difference and not just what was going to come AFTER.

And it’s the same with life!

The pain we must endure is for a time and it can be unbearable, it’s real and pain hurts, that’s the nature of pain.

It’s okay to cry and even scream to help release the pressure, caused by the pain. After all that’s the purpose of crying and screaming, isn’t it? Can I hear an AMEN?

Consider the following analogy;

A diamond must endure tremendous amounts of pressure and intense heat before it ever can become a diamond. Does the diamond fight it? No, it embraces the process by allowing nature to perform its intended work because the diamond’s hope is fixed on becoming what nature intended for it to become, a diamond.

Are you NOT meant to shine like a diamond? Because I believe that’s exactly what you where created to do!

Why do we appreciate the sun so much?

Because we have to endure some pretty crazy shit storms and some brutally dark and cold winter’s.

Interestingly, even the sun can become an annoyance at times,

And that is why some change in life is good, because there’s beauty in the diversity of our experiences and that’s what makes life spicy. After all variety is the spice of life.

Want to turn your negative experiences into good ones?

Sure you do, who wouldn’t!

Except maybe a pessimist, but I digress.

Final thought;

Well, I added another thought before publishing this so now its,

Final thoughts;

If you want to turn your negative experiences into positive ones, embrace them by choosing to actively learn from them. Then you’ll never have a bad experience go to waste ever again.

In fact, that’s exactly how you get recharged with positive energy.

You’re probably saying to yourself, “Easier said than done!”.

However, once you’ve put this into practice long enough it becomes a habit and that’s when climbing cliffs and jumping out of airplanes becomes exciting because now you’re living for the adventure and not just living to die.

No adventure is without fear, just don’t let fear keep you from living your adventure!

Just think about it.

Bradford Lee Mace

By Bradford Lee Mace

Dad, Health & Fitness Enthusiast, Writer, Poet & Entrepreneur

One day a poem formed in my mind, it happened as a result of an experience I was going though. So I wrote it down and haven’t stopped writing since.

I’m not skilled in grammar and punctuation or even spelling, but I do have a gift for translating my feelings, thoughts and emotions into words, that people can relate to.

My motivation for writing comes from a deeply rooted desire I have to encourage and motivate people.

I know the loneliness, that darkness that leads a person to contemplating suicide, that was once me. I had no one that understood the pain, agony and darkness I was going through.

And that is why I write and share publicly, in hope that I might encourage another human soul needing desperately to hear, “There’s hope, you’re not alone in your struggle”.

I haven’t figured out everything, but what I have figured out I write about, and sometimes I bleed words turning them into poetry.