Enjoy The Flowers But Don’t Ignore The Signs

Ignoring the red flags because you only want to see the good in a person will cost you more than you bargained for and the ending of this story will be an epic broken heart. It won’t be fun picking up those pieces, and Super Glue won’t help you either. But you can avoid this from happening if you pay attention to the signs and read them carefully.

I’ve experienced this four times in my life and that’s why I’m sharing with you the following, so you won’t have to repeat history as I’ve done.
To my daughters; One day you will know why this is so important to understand, and I hope that this will help you avoid many unnecessary heartbreaks.

I don’t want anyone to have to go through what I’ve been through in my life, and I surely don’t want to watch my daughters have to go through it either.

However, life is what it is, and we can’t protect our children from everything and experience is a much better teacher than I am anyway, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try and lessen their heartbreak or even yours.

This is why it’s so important for us to learn from our past experiences.

And with people it’s even more important to be mindful of their behavioral patterns.

Pay attention to the signs and read them carefully, because they’re there for a reason!!!!

STOP and consider these sobering facts;

People will lie with their words.

And they will lie with their actions.

But their behavioral patterns will never lie, that shits black and white.

Behavioral patterns are the only truth worth watching and listening to, in fact, it’s the only consistent truth in all of our lives.

Narcissists and sociopaths are the easiest to spot once you’ve learned their behavioral patterns.

They’re so heavily documented by professionals there isn’t any excuse for falling prey to their schemes any longer.

The problem we all struggle with:

What clouds our ability to see clearly is when we’re unable to keep in check our feelings and emotions.

Your feelings and emotions are what they prey on; they don’t want you to think because they fear you’ll see them for who they truly are.

Sure the euphoria of being drunk with love or lust or with both can be intoxicating, exhilarating and even heavenly feeling,

Who doesn’t enjoy floating on cloud nine feeling as though they’re in love? I do!

But it’s this state of heightened feelings and emotions that causes us to become dull and partially blind, where we can’t read what’s on the signs, even though they’re staring us in the face.

Of course you want to focus on the good in that person, but you also need to look at the whole person because that’s who they really are.

This is why it’s never healthy to rush into a relationship with someone, because you need adequate time to watch and observe their behavioral patterns, to learn what kind of person they truly are.

For example;

People who have a habit of lying are always inconsistent with their stories. It’s actually laughable because they’re drunk on their lies. So drunk that they’re tripping over their own words while trying to form a readable sentence, let alone a believable one.

But we don’t have to be drunk on their lies!

When you meet someone don’t allow yourself to become so drunk on your feelings and emotions, that you end up in bed with someone you’ll regret waking up to one day.

Because the person you’ve shacked up with is actually a blood sucking leach whose only intention is to use, abuse and take advantage of your good character and kind heart.

You never have to be the victim, just stop and learn before crossing the road and you won’t get hit by a truck.

You aren’t a victim as if it was an accident because you’ve just been warned.

Because after they’re done with you and you’ve finally woken up from their spell you’ll be wondering what the hell just happened and you’ll be saying to yourself,

“WHAT THE @$#&, NOT AGAIN!”

Unless you love repeating history, in that case, rip up the notes you’ve just taken because you’re a gluten for punishment and deserve what Karma has waiting for you on the other end.

The funny thing about learning, when you fail to learn what life is trying to teach you life will most definitely give you the same experience over and over and over again until you finally learn,

But many never do and that’s why for some people Insanity has become their new life partner.

Insanity; Is doing the same thing over and over, while expecting to get a different result each time.

But it doesn’t have to be that way if you take my advice and hold on to it tight.

The pain is real when you’ve given your heart to the wrong person as these poems I wrote give testimony to.

But there’s always hope, if you will allow experience to teach you and you take to heart my words of wisdom.

Here’s my encouragement to you;

Perspective is the key to finding hope in all your experiences, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise and hope you will always find.

Remember the key

Sincerely, Bradford Mace